We are in charge of ourselves every second. We take care of ourselves first to help others. If we do nothing about negative feelings, we hit rock bottom and sometimes take others with us. Your parent needs to see a medical doctor for evaluation and possibly medication or counseling. If she refuses, she will want company with no regrets as to their own positive future. Snap out of it! Get on with your life and get her to see the means to an end when you do.